About me

I am P T Sunderam the leading NLP ( neuro linguistic programming) psychologist of India, with 2 decades of NLP experience helping the youth of the society,( moving from stuck up phase to challenge phase of their life) through ( one to one help and group coaching and class room training ) NLP life skills education.

You can see my work in more than 350 you tube videos and 150 + NLP podcasts , I am available at my NLP coaching clinic at OMR Chennai, i am also CEO of NTC ( NLP life skills- Training at Chennai) Academy Chennai.

I hail from Tirunelveli, Tamil Nadu. My parents come from a poor background; my father had a big family to support his own 3 brothers and 3 sisters. My dad was ex-servicemen employed with police department of AP. I was born and brought up mostly in Hyderabad, I was very close to my mother because I saw her balancing family responsibilities taking care of me my sister and my uncle( my father’s unmarried brothers- un married aunts) and in laws. My father was the only earning member as an ordinary police constable supporting 10 family members. My childhood was full of struggle between my mum and dad as they had lot of fights daily, because could not balance lifestyle of the family members.

My father had his own stress in his duty, sometimes he couldn’t bear the blaming games of every family members pointing finger to each others. He use to trash all of us, mostly my mother was the victim. My mum use to cry and sleep and I use to solace my mother and my younger sister.

One day my father punished my mother with heavy wooden stick for yelling, to support his blood brother. I was small boy 8 years old and a spectator on the scene questioning god why this is happening to my mother? In the mid night my mother woke me up and took me to Narasimha Swamy temple, sitting near the well sobbing and crying, and she told me the only solution would be to go towards god by committing suicide in temple well. I agreed and both of us jumped into the well hugging each other.

We had injuries, water was around us, but the water was not much, we were trying t sit in the available water, my mother told lets dive ourselves below the surface level of water and was pushing me inside the water level.

There was some loud noise, temple people saw us brought us out to the well.

The pujari shouted at my mother and asked my why am i doing this? I told because of my father we want to go near to god permanently, we cannot bear this torture daily.

The pujari gave me examples of movie of NTR and MGR where the child grows up protecting the mother and take revenge for the sake of the mother on other family members

One lady in the group told me promise “all not commit suicide and u will not allow Ur mother to commit suicide” I promised her in front of swami statue

The pujari told me you want to help your mother? But there are many such mothers waiting for help? Who will help them? He told me do you know why god has saved you? “To help many more mothers” he asked a promise will u save many more mothers, I told yes I will save many mothers

I am a very good listener. I talk very less, sometimes I loose myself listening to the stories of my clients during counselling and coaching. Many of my clinic staff asks me “from where you get such great amount of patience of listening hour and hours to clients?” I ask myself this question after repeated question to myself for years. I get only one answer what pujari told me the promise “you have to save many more mothers life from committing suicide “

May be this is my life mission

At that age of 8 years I made a promise innocently, emotionally in grief, I never thought ill become a psychologist, counsellor coach or a trainer. But yes I get lot of satisfaction during listening to others problems.

Life has taught me how to listen; my education and training taught how to diagnose cases with psychometric tools

I use a wide range of tools for diagnosis (MBTI, Fibro, DISC, and NLP. Enneagram etc.) while I was heading training division of BHEL (85 k employees) largest public sector of India

After completing my engineering I joined BHEL, I had good reading habits thanks to my mother she use to read a lot of books. I joined Jaycees(a voluntary self development forum) I was national trainer of Hyderabad Jaycees I conducted lot of training programs, Goal setting time management, Transactional analysis etc ( I was called mostly for TA)

To do better training program I used to sponsor myself for training programs ( DILT, MILT etc.) Divakar Rawal of DILT made a deep impact on my mind, I run a monthly master mind meeting in my house inspired by “think and grow rich” napoleon Hill.